I believe in signs. I believe in Mother Earth and the Moon and God and Love and asking for what you need out loud. Someone is listening – I promise you – because last night, she answered me. It had been a day, a not so perfect day where I couldn’t shake the sadness and apathy that had taken hold. When these days come – curling my body around itself to protect my center, wrapping knees into chest, arms around knees, squeezing eyelids tight to shut out the world – I’m never quite sure what to do, how to right myself again. There was nothing I could point to and say, “Aha! That is the thing that has busted me up. That is the thing I must fix.” The thoughts just rolled in, covering me in gray fog as I fumbled through the hours until kids were tucked in beds and the responsibilities of the day were done. I had big things on my mind; it was time to shut them down and start over in the morning.

“Tell me my beauty!” she says, eager, hopeful as we all turn to face her. She has been waiting on this for a year. I know because I have, too. We all have. And so it begins, “You are classically beautiful, storybook beautiful, like Audrey Hepburn or Snow White with your dark hair and fair skin.” We rush to shower her with adoration. “And your freckles. I love your freckles!” “And your eyes. We know you have a thing with your eyes, but they are gorgeous.” “Seriously. The color. So gorgeous!” “And you have the best smile. Like you smile with your whole body. Completely infectious.” It’s a tradition we’ve started along the way, the first time in New Orleans in a dark bar where liquor loosens tongues and the space between strangers pulls you closer to the ones you came with.

I am not graceful. I am nearly always the opposite. Clumsy, rushed, awkward, fumbling. It has been that way since I can remember, spending full nights into day-breaks pleading to reside inside the husk of someone else, begging for a body that knows how to move without being noticed. Or questioned. Or mocked. But here I stay, trapped inside this one, just slightly out of tune, enough to blend and enough to bleed, watching the others glide effortlessly by.